Stop comparing yourself to others

Stop comparing yourself to others

...Admit it you have done this in the past or the present and yes we're all guilty of wanting something someone else has, wishing we had the 'perfect' life they have. We have all longed - for what someone else has had or got! Yes the jealousy may have kicked in! The comparing is like flicking through pages in a book, going back to the past chapter, thinking over & over again about what you've just read! I mean that's not a bad thing when reading a book but it seemed right at this current time! But you get the picture here! What I'm trying to say is we flick through our life & back to theirs & think over what it would be like living their life! It's what you want isn't it? To damage your time, hurt yourself over and over again as you don't have a 'perfect' life that this person seems to have. They have everything you seem to crave, yes crave as it's like a addiction you're so hooked to the idea of the 'perfect' life that someone else has. Question is are you living yourself? Are you fulfilling your dreams right now? Are you working to where you want to be? If you're examining how someone's living their life over & over again then answer is no right now!

Right so let's sort this mess out right now! Are you being serious why are you comparing your life to others, it's bloomin ridiculous! I'm being honest here! Why would you want to be someone else? Or have their life? You see what you see on Social media, a pretty picture, a happy smile, things they own, the 'perfect' relationship. Yes it's lovely and good for them, they're lucky to have what they have but you don't know what happens behind closed doors! They could be struggling just like you wishing/comparing their life to others! I know right this sounds absolutely atrocious right now. What?! They want to live another life with all those beautiful things they have. Why would they do that? You ask yourself, but really it's a reflection of yourself, remind you of who else this sounds like? Yeah you! See what I mean why would you spend your time wishing you had something else when you've got what you need right in front of you, may not seem like it but you do. You're the one who can make things better for yourself why not start, errr like now?! Yes it will take time and hard work but in the end the hard work will all pay off and you'll look back and think "wow I really did this, it feels amazing" wouldn't that be ace right? You'll feel so good about yourself. Woooop! 

Let's talk now. Come on are you still seriously comparing yourself to others? You need to do you! Don't try and live another's life or waste time wishing you did. If you really want something, start working for it now. Do not I repeat, DO NOT COMPARE YOUR LIFE TO OTHERS!! Just no! Go chase your own dreams! Don't wait around, make yourself busy, get working hard. Do something that is for you.

I look at life like we're all a part of a book, we have our own chapters in life. Some will be amazing, others will be draining, heartbreaking making them challenging but you know what its your own chapters, your journey in life. Nobody else will live your life, or see things from your perspective. Don't you think its exciting having your own journey in life? Its unique, its your own story to share. Comparing your story to that other persons will destroy your own unique one. We don't want that to happen, do we now? Imagine having the same story as someone else its like the saying been there, done that, got the t-shirt, yep its nothing new. Would you honestly want that? exactly, change your own life you're in control. Make your life the very best, you only have this one. Make yourself proud. You'll be so happy when you do, trust me.

Be yourself and don't try to be someone else you're so unique and its so very lovely to see. 

With lots of love

Brontë

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My top 10 tips on how you can stay motivated

Sometimes finding or feeling motivation feels impossible and really sucks (well at the time) but being motivated can make you feel absolutely amazing!

Here are my top 10 tips on how you can stay motivated: 

1.) Follow inspirational people 

You'll be on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc. You'll see someone who is successful, lots of followers and their inspirational posts. Keep following them you'll just feel more and more inspired by the motivation they share. One of my inspirations is a lovely women called Kayla a fitness role model who I've looked up to for years now and seen her and her success grow, its just truly beautiful to see that. I've actually recently purchased her book which I'm super excited to read and try out. Others who share their motivation are just amazing people they really do help you to keep going, as you all need that little extra motivation from somewhere now, don't you?

2.) Set goals/aspirations 

Grab a pen, some paper or type up these notes on your phone and list as many goals you want to achieve each month, day and year. Write as many as possible, then look at them. Ask yourself can you reach that goal? by now you should have said yes as you can do anything with the right mindset. Look back at those notes to remind yourself of why you need to stay motivated why you wrote those goals in the first place. If you're ever wanting to give up remind yourself of your purpose here. You didn't write or type those goals for nothing! 

3.) Start doing it, quit saying you're going to do it

You want to reach that goal, pass that test, get healthy but all you do is tell people. Why not show them? Start today! You're no closer to your dreams or aspirations if you don't make a start right now! Stop making excuses to why you can't do it when you can! Excuses just stop you from getting where you want. They're something you need to quit using and saying! If those people you find inspirational used excuses instead of working hard they wouldn't be who they're today. If you want to do something or be someone you have to start working hard and start now. 

4.) Talk, get to know & meet up with others who share the same or similar passions

Getting to know others with the same passion is amazing with all the support and relate-able stuff you can natter on about. I mean who doesn't love a good natter?! Meeting others with the same interests is just ace! I've met some wonderful bloggers who I'm looking forward to meeting up with many more times. If you are worried about what to say when sending them a message as you think they might not like you or won't be as nice don't worry. The worst they could do is ignore you and you'll find that some people are not as friendly as you thought but that's ok, as there are many more people out there who are just so lovely, you'll wonder why you never met them sooner. Surround yourself with the lovely people with the positivity, the right attitude and the right mindset. You'll soon see how amazing life can be with these people around you. So send that message to that person you have things in common with. Just do it! Plan places and times you can meet up, plan activities, get a large group together, get out that comfort zone you're stuck in. Ask questions, find out how they started or found their passion they share with you. Find out if there's a story behind their talents, did they get there from bad experiences or  difficult times and turned things around? ask ask ask! It'll help guide and motivate you trust me on this one. 

5.)  Rest, relax, take care of yourself & take breaks 

This is something that's so important to do especially if you're always busy or busy lifting others! Remember to take time and rest so you can stay as motivated as possible. Spend time with your family, go out with friends, have that little you time. Take time to work on yourself there's no rush in time things will be even better. Having these breaks can help you to keep going and feel great about yourself later. Its alright to not always be working hard every minute its good to relax and give your mind time to rest so you're prepared for being more motivated to do what're doing.

6.) Stay as positive as possible 

Its understandable that not everyone has a positive mindset or are not always positive but surrounding yourself with positive things and positive people can really help to keep you going. Don't stay around negative things or people if you don't like what they say or do that's negative take yourself away from it. You'll see how much better life is when you're sticking to your positivity you really will. Lets face it either way in negative or positive situation the outcome can always be positive. You learn lessons to help to guide you and for you to grow during the bad times or you find that you can add more positivity to your life through a positive experience. So you'll be ok either way. Positive mind, positive vibes all contribute to a happy and positive life which you can have and enjoy.

7.) Look up inspirational quotes 

You really can't go wrong with those inspirational quotes. They're totally easy to find too!! Personally I find that looking at quotes can help myself too on days where I just lack motivation. Yes I admit it I'm not always motivated everyday, I mean what do you expect I'm only human! Sometimes I need that tad motivation from someone or somewhere else and at times I'll use my own motivation. This is ok I'm not perfect (no such thing as perfect) nobody is perfect and its ok not to be. Reading those quotes really helps as you can think yes I can do this! And yes I believe you can so don't stop. 

8.) Don't let others dictate what you want to do & don't give up

Lets be honest here you wouldn't want anyone to dictate what you do otherwise you'll be and feel powerless which is no way to help you stay motivated at all. It's very easy for others to make you feel powerless but its much easier to choose not too listen to what they want you to do. There will always be some who want you to be who they want you to be whether that be family, friends or even strangers (I know right crazyy!) you'll be surprised, it happens a lot. You can't let anyone control you, its what you need to do for yourself. Don't let anyone dull who you really are. It's your life make it as best as possible. Just think how in the future you'll look back on the positive memories thinking "I did this all by myself, I did this for me, I didn't do this to prove anyone I could do it, I did this to prove myself I could so this". Imagine how super amazing you'll feel after you've achieved what you aspired to do in in the present just imagine. You can do this if you start by controlling what you do. Don't hold back your dreams or aspirations just to make others happy as you won't end up happy in the future stuck doing something you don't enjoy doing. Do this for yourself and only yourself. 

9.) Think about bettering yourself daily & dream, dream, dream!

Isn't it lovely to be in control of your own happiness and your own decisions? go work on that hobby, go get that job, go workout, go do well in your exams, go follow those dreams etc etc (you get the picture.)  Look after yourself, eat well, sleep well, look after your body most importantly do all this for yourself.  Don't look back look forward ( well look back on memories and things you can improve on) but keep looking forward. Don't let your bad experiences or your past take control of now, don't let them stop you achieving those big things you dream that is possible to make them become true. Just don't let it at all!  The past is the past it does not define you, it makes you the person you are right now. So stop beating yourself up, you have so much power to make yourself better and better and that's just simply amazing. Keep on dreaming, keep on working hard, keep on making those dreams your reality and let nothing stop you from being the best version of you. 

10.) Don't lose that lovely inner Sparkle 

You know that talent, them dreams, that personality, don't let them go! Sometimes you just want to give up nothing seems to be going well and motivation is a the low. This is the time when you need to bring that sparkle out even more. You may be thinking how can I possibly do that?! well why not start of by doing something you love, maybe go for a walk to think, watch that movie, write down your thoughts, have that you time to reflect. Some days that inner sparkle may not be as strong as other days and you know what? that's ok. You're not born to be perfect, in fact nobody is. It's ok to not always be ok. Then you know what you've just got to pick yourself up and let that inner sparkle shine even more. Even give yourself that little prep talk if that's what helps. Don't let go of something that's so amazing. You'll feel even better later if you carry on doing what're doing right now with that sparkle. 

Hope this has helped you or will help you in the future.


With lots of love

Brontë

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